Why Strong Feminine Energy is Essential Right Now

What are masculine and feminine energy?

Regardless of our gender and orientation, we all naturally have masculine and feminine energy on a sliding scale that can be expressed in strong (mature, healthy) or weak (immature, unhealthy) ways.

Here, “masculine” doesn’t equate to “male” or a man. “Feminine” doesn’t mean “female” or a woman. Straight, cis-gender women tend to naturally have more feminine energy on average though; and men more often have more masculine energy. Regardless of how we were born or identify, we all can access aspects of both energies.

Strong feminine energy shows up in traits such as emotional intelligence, nurturing, body wisdom, intuition and connection to nature. Masculine energy helps us connect to aspects of ourselves like logic, competition, physical power, direction and clarity. We move between these energies to different extents depending on the environment, tasks and people we find ourselves with. You can read more about strong and weak masculine and feminine energy traits here.

With awareness and practice we can consciously choose to show up more in our strong masculine and feminine energy as the need arises. For example, when playing competitive sports or negotiating a deal, we can switch into masculine mode. To make a decision that’s right for our long-term well-being however; then connecting to the feelings in our body and intuition, as well as being able to read people with high EQ from feminine energy, is useful.

Places and societies can be more masculine or feminine-dominant too. Energy polarity expert and author David Deida notes that nurturing, slower-paced and nature-rich places like Hawaii are more connected to feminine energy. Whereas large, hustle-bustle, capitalist, concrete-covered cities like New York exude more masculine energy.

Society has valued masculine more than feminine energy traits

Overall, modern society has valued and encouraged the development of masculine more than strong feminine energy traits. This has included the dominance of weak masculine energy symptoms in people and cultures; such as over-dominance, aggression, or logic without empathy.

For example, it’s the norm that we:

• Show up as fearful or disparaging of emotions; telling people not to cry or to toughen up. This is especially pervasive for our men. This tragic repression means hundreds of thousands of men feel they have no way out but to take their own lives each year.
• Destroy and pave over nature and other species for the development of our cities.
• Value logical, or competitive careers (e.g. bankers or footballers) far more than (arguably more important) nurturing and intuitive jobs (e.g. nurses or teachers).
• Live in self-contained concrete apartments in cities, barely knowing our neighbours, rather than in the community. Away from the “village” many believe it takes to raise a healthy family. Loneliness and isolation are at epidemic levels in many developed countries.
• Allow people who are supremely out of touch with their femininity to rule our countries. Then make decisions that are damaging to people and their environment accordingly.
• Are out of touch with natural body functions and sensations, like satiety, so that 4 in 10 Americans are obese. We disconnect from the neck-down; and don’t know what feels good and bad for our bodies anymore. Whether that’s the social interactions, food work or content we consume.
• Focus on IQ and analysis in education, and are excessively mentally stimulated by modern life. We value creativity, physical fitness and intuition, less than logical subjects than maths and science.
• Worship a masculine God as the divine, rather than Goddesses or mother nature. This wasn’t always the case. Ancient and current belief systems around the world (including Hinduism, the Ancient Egyptians and Norse Mythology) are polytheistic. Where Gods and Goddesses representing different sacred, masculine and feminine aspects of life are revered.
• Self-medicate (with alcohol or antidepressants, for example), because we haven’t learned to listen to our body, intuition or to regulate our feelings. We’d rather drown them out than face them. Addictions to mind-altering substances to quiet the mind and dissociate are rife.
• Start wars that murder and displace millions of people: often for political power or resource-grabbing. When more connected to our divine feminine, we value innocent lives and peace more than these.
• Have widespread mental health issues, as we prize technology, capitalism and hollow achievements, over what actually makes us happy, healthy humans. For example, real-life connections, nature, or creativity.
• Over-use and over-empower technology – many experts consider AI to be our biggest extinction risk factor. We feed the daily attention spans, limited time and natural resources of our planet to huge tech companies.
• Allow physically stronger men to dominate over generally less physically powerful women, leading to abuse and imbalanced gender dynamics.
• Masculinity (e.g. competitiveness and analysis) is often (subconsciously) treated as a desirable leadership quality. Feminine people are expected to stay small, quiet, and “nice”. However, these characteristics are often not valued in leadership positions. Leading to a lack of nurturing, intuitive and emotionally intelligent leaders.
• Feminine people (most often women) are denied powerful business, political leadership positions and financial capital (~2% of VC funding goes to women).
• Use language that associates femininity with unfavourable characteristics like weakness. Even the word “heroine” has negative connotations for its alternative meaning. Our language also misses many feminine equivalents of words. We rarely use “defeminization” to describe the prevalent issues in this list; but commonly discuss emasculation. 
• See nature as a useful resource when it’s chopped down or sold, rather than as part of a shared ecosystem that all life is part of and relies on. It’s as if we don’t realise extinct bees are extinct humans; or that polluted air and water also pollute us!

I’m sure you can think of other examples too.

Why do we need more strong feminine energy?

My experience of masculine and feminine energy imbalance

I grew up in a British household that struggled to discuss or show much emotion. And in a busy city that’s low on nature and high on pollution. My first job was as an accountant; where analysis and competition were valued more than being who we really were. A friend was once called “one unit of resource” in a work email. With the rise of AI, it’s no wonder robotic jobs like these are going to have to evolve.

Over years, I’ve built a better connection to my strong feminine energy. For example:

• I’ve tapped into my creativity by writing.
• Hearing and trusting my intuition is more natural.
• I’m in tune with my body, avoid dissociative substances, and take care of my mind and spirit.
• I notice how the people and environment I surround myself with affects me and act accordingly.
• My home is full of plants; I take care of my dog and love hosting friends and family.
• Nature is something I feel connected to and have a give-and-take relationship with.
• Through books, courses, practices, and mentors —  I recognise and express my feelings and clear boundaries.
• I’ve purposefully built a supportive community I feel truly myself with.

Connecting to and expressing my true natural level of feminine energy has had a profound impact on my joy and confidence. As well as the experiences, love and community I attract into my life. I feel brave tapping into feminine energy superpowers – like intuition, fierce love, creativity and strong communication – instead of relying on girlish charms or a brittle masculine shell to get by.

I thrive being who I really am. It also helps feminine people attract mature masculine partners who feel relaxed around secure feminine energy.

We need a heroine to balance the world out

“Only when the Eagle (feminine) and the Condor (masculine) fly together, will there be peace in the world.”

~ Ancient Indigenous prophecy, summarized by Nadia Tidona

On a global scale, I believe there are many issues that could be remedied with a better masculine-feminine energy balance. This doesn’t mean the feminine ought to take over; but for us to develop and revere both sides of ourselves as opposite but equally important.

An energetic re-balancing could help us recognise, respect and elect more empathetic and conscious political and business leaders. They might value thriving people and environment; more than personal power and winning at all costs.

Personally, I don’t want humans to die out within a couple of generations from the collapse of our ecosystems due to climate change, pollution and the non-circular use of resources. Creating 400 million tonnes of toxic waste products a year, that cannot be safely returned to our global resource pool. Or for us to be taken out by out-of-control testosterone-and-technology-fuelled wars.

Having to move to another planet (e.g. Mars) to live in a mall-like environment – because we’ve destroyed the one we’ve evolved on since the start of life on Earth – doesn’t appeal. We can only hope that egoic dictators and business leaders – who start wars and pillage resources – become extinct like dinosaurs: before they take the rest of us down with them.

Up next – how do we connect more to our femininity?

Humans may have evolved to act as and be attracted to more dominant, testosterone-fueled individuals when resources were scarce over generations. Today the world collectively has abundant resources; and the technology available for billions of people to survive and thrive. I believe we need to evolve in a new direction ASAP.

An iPhone’s operating system updates at a much faster rate (over months) than our nervous system does (over millennia). Evolving our awareness and consciousness in real time however, in the generations alive today, is necessary for survival.

We may not be able to annually upgrade our bodies (or hardware) like Apple devices do. But we can choose to evolve and share good ideas using the technology and wisdom we’ve created. We can choose to do this with the education tools we have available. We can step back to look at the bigger picture and continuously question how we might do things better.

For society to value the feminine as much as we do the masculine; it starts with each of us. Including you. Connecting to our strong feminine energy (and supporting others in theirs) leads as an example of what positive feminine energy looks like.

For example, women from Israel and Palestine recently came together, peacefully “fostering understanding and promoting reconciliation”. They are demanding an end to inhumane suffering and asking for more seats at political decision-making tables.

More and more conflicting personal, local, and global issues keep rearing their heads. As if we descend further into how much the dysfunctional energy imbalance isn’t working across our planet.

It’s time for a femifesto. For us to rise into our feminine power and reclaim the strength, empathy and connection it brings. Also embracing our masculinity as it ascends into a more evolved version. Frankly, before we go extinct.

Part two: how to connect more to your feminine energy

In the next article of this series, I’ll share what worked for me, and others, to tap into our strong feminine energy. Regardless of gender or sexual orientation.

Part two could help you if you’d like to be in touch with your feminine superpowers. If you want to better understand feminine people; or be more attractive to masculine partners. Also, to bring balance to the societal issues of masculine over-dominance listed above.

In the meantime, thank you for reading, You can read more about me here.